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When a man shaves and looks awful.. from a gay man’s point of view

Posted by bert5 on 2 June 2019

As mentioned in a couple older posts (1) and (2) on this blog, it could be generalized that men usually look best to women and gay men with a little bit of beard (even stubble), but not necessarily completely shaven. This may be an age dependent thing. As a teenager, I don’t recall if I preferred men with stubble; maybe not. Young men, can often pull off a completely shaven look. Perhaps they still have a boyish face not yet ravaged by weight gain or massive flows of testosterone. Testosterone tends to make for wide faces and square jaws which I think are not aesthetically pleasing to look at.

It turns out even some older men with fine facial features can still handle the shaved look, such as Matt Damon, Ryan Phillippe and Jet Li.

But some men, Read the rest of this entry »

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Men in Paris

Posted by bert5 on 29 August 2009

There’s a fair amount to like about men in Paris, and a couple downsides.  Just about any non-tourist guy in ages 20-30s in Paris shares a few beneficial characteristics:

  • Not overweight:  How could they be?  It’s so expensive to eat in Paris.  If you want to live economically, you’ve got to cook and go grocery shopping for at least some of your meals.  Metro stations are denser in Paris than other towns, but you’ve still got to walk some.  Plus, many smoke, so probably the revved up metabolism helps.
  • Dress well:  I think the guys do pay attention to their clothes a little more or else the girlfriends do.  Following the latter reasoning, apparently, no self-respecting girlfriend lets her man dress like an American slob.  It is helpful of course, that European men’s clothes seem to fit better.  Whatever shirt they’re wearing, be it a t-shirt, polo or button down, they are form fitting, tight arm hole type showing slim muscular physique to the best advantage.  This is the type of shirt which I would only see on gay guys in the US.  But it is like on every guy here, like a uniform.  You can’t even buy this stuff in the US because huge percentages of guys can’t fit into them, and if they did, you’d see the beer bellies and saggy breasts and it’d be a comedy on the streets of Memphis (34% obese — talking obese here not merely overweight).
  • Like to be out in the sun and get tan:  As above, generally they have the body for it, so I have no objections as I pass or stop for a break in the park.  In combination with skin damage from smoking, all this sun probably results in premature skin aging, but that’s a worry for later.
  • Friendly:  As in not rude, in general.  I wouldn’t say gentlemenly because I think that’s reserved for men in London.  (In the London tube as we were stymied by the card readers, a worker gently called out to us: “Gentlemen” and kindly directed us to the correct turnstiles.  That nearly made my entire day.  I don’t think I’d ever in my life been called a gentleman by a stranger.  Ok, maybe a couple times in significantly more formal settings.)  In Paris, guys are pretty friendly especially if you speak and understand some French.

Now for the downsides: Read the rest of this entry »

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Attraction: Guys that gay men like versus guys that girls like

Posted by bert5 on 20 June 2007

Do girls like men with long hair? Perhaps it’s a Texas thing. I read somewhere women love the men with long hair in Texas. Maybe because I’ve never lived in Texas, I just can’t get into it. Once in awhile I see a guy with long hair, and I think there’s no way that guy is gay. In fact, I think the long haired guys do this purposefully, to ensure they don’t get hit on by gay guys. I gotta believe it must work. It’s a super repellent for me. I’ve seen really unattractive guys with long hair get their hair cut and become super attractive.

cosmo long vs short hair on men poll

cosmo long vs short hair on men poll

» The Oh la la blog comments on this very issue and agrees: women LOVE long haired men and gay men LOVE short.

» A Cosmo “study” (image left) shows it’s a little less clear that women like long haired men.   I agreed with the women who shied away from long haired Penn Badgley, because he looks too much like a girl with the shaved face, pale white skin, plunging neckline and cute button nose, but I disagreed with them on the long haired Colin Farrell.  There on the right he’s got Gere-like gray hair, has a stash and soul patch and wears a slight status boosting suit.  None of the aforementioned brings particular appeal to me, but it seems girls really dig that stuff.  Perhaps, a summary might be that it’s hard to pull off being an attractive long haired male, although I think women might be forgiving (more on this below).

Women supposedly like guys with chiseled masculine faces at the most fertile time of their period and then look for less masculine faced guys at their least fertile — in their search for a responsible father. I.e. the hyper-testosterone makes for an unreliable parent. Since I don’t get a monthly hormone cycle, I don’t think my opinion changes. And I tend to aim for the boyish faced guys. I think a good percentage of gay guys tastes run similarly, though obviously tastes vary greatly.

But women in general don’t find looks as important as status and money — basically ability to provide for offspring — in men. On the other hand, I think gay guys pretty much look at physical attraction and youthfulness first. This shows that gay guys are parallel to straight guys, where women’s looks are paramount.

Women do seem to like: Josh Lucas and Matthew McConaughey. To me, these are puzzling choices, but they definitely have the mega extreme chiseled face thing going.  They seem to have taken the whole box of testosterone arm patches and pasted them on their faces.  I think gay guys would shy away if only to stay away from overly macho scary jerks.

And beards. I don’t really take to the full on beards, but here again some women seem to like them. McConaughey and Lucas sport some form of beard pretty much all the time. Another higher testosterone, evolutionary selection for offspring survivability thing I guess. Still, a small amount of facial hair often works for me.

From studies it’s clear females like tall guys.  So much so that it’s worth more than $150k in annual earnings for a short guy to be equally attractive to a woman as a significantly taller guy.  It’s true, short guys have even written books bemoaning the lust of women for tall guys.  Tall, dark and handsome in that order.  In fact, you can leave off the last two, it seems.

But for gay guys, I don’t have much general insight into preferences I think because the preferences will vary. I.e. short guys may like guys still shorter than themselves, or not. Tall guys may yet prefer guys even taller than themselves, or not.  There’s been a theory put out there that there are alpha and beta gay males — er, the top and bottom analogy.  Attempting to go along with that setup, my guess is the alpha gay male would want to be taller than their mate.  And I guess the beta gay male wouldn’t mind being the shorter one.  But perhaps top vs bottom is misdirection, and vers is the answer.

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