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When a man shaves and looks awful.. from a gay man’s point of view

Posted by bert5 on 2 June 2019

As mentioned in a couple older posts (1) and (2) on this blog, it could be generalized that men usually look best to women and gay men with a little bit of beard (even stubble), but not necessarily completely shaven. This may be an age dependent thing. As a teenager, I don’t recall if I preferred men with stubble; maybe not. Young men, can often pull off a completely shaven look. Perhaps they still have a boyish face not yet ravaged by weight gain or massive flows of testosterone. Testosterone tends to make for wide faces and square jaws which I think are not aesthetically pleasing to look at.

It turns out even some older men with fine facial features can still handle the shaved look, such as Matt Damon, Ryan Phillippe and Jet Li.

But some men, Read the rest of this entry »

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Should a gay guy shave?

Posted by bert5 on 8 August 2008

I was getting some search term hits on this question to another blog entry. But I think this is a common question or issue from straight guys.  Some of my straight guy friends ask me: why don’t you shave?

Now, it’s not that I have had a serious beard ever — East asian genes has made that difficult (not impossible though it might take a month) —  but usually I just let things go for a half week and there’s a bit of fuzz.  And actually I think it looks okay, not something I would do when meeting the Queen of England perhaps.  But it hides some imperfect skin and makes me look a bit more rugged.

I think many straight guys tend to shave religiously themselves and think not shaving looks unattractive.  And of course it does — to them.  I mean let’s face it, they are attracted to women.  Women with facial hair might have hormonal problems.  It’s probably wise for guys to not waste much time with such women.  And so, in their perhaps well meaning, yet incredibly feeble attempt to put themselves in my shoes, they think, immediately, that I would look more attractive if I shaved.  Their primitive brains haven’t yet fully grasped the concept that I like guys who like guys.  And guys who like guys, like them with at least some testosterone — facial hair is a positive indicator of that.

Seriously, it’s dumb to listen to straight guys for grooming advice, if you’re gay.   I mean there’s no straight eye for the gay guy.

Now if a straight guy is so desperate as to consider ‘converting’ — well nigh impossible, imho — , but he’s saying something like he’d do it with you if you looked like a girl and shaved, then this guy is a total loser.  I mean he can’t even get a girl interested in him, so he’s trying to get a gay guy to look like a girl for him.  Get as far away as you can from this guy immediately.

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A Psychology Today article talks about a small study of women’s preference in male facial hair.  It seems light stubble is preferred (full on beard is seen as too aggressive).  This highlights a case where women and gay men have similar taste!

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Then again, perhaps I misinterpreted the search terms.  A new one has come up saying something like “I’m gay, what should I shave?”  Uh, hmmm, personally I think the best solution for a gay guy (straight guy too) is the middle ground on the pubic hair.

This brings to mind something else.  There are some straight guys and perhaps a minority of gay guys, who do the so called ‘porn’ thing and wax their entire upper bodies, thinking this is an awesome look.  For similar reasons to above this doesn’t suit my taste really either. Again contrary to straight guy reasoning, body hair is attractive on a man.

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[There is also the figurative meaning of this question.  A ‘beard’ is a closeted gay man’s wife or girlfriend.  I leave answering that question for another post.]

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Little indications: gaydar

Posted by bert5 on 6 April 2008

A single woman does not care how she looks, for example, has short hair. She might be a lesbian (or a very clueless straight girl). The disheveled looks do much to deter men from pursuit, but mean less to most lesbians. On the other hand, if a girl cares about her looks, it may not mean she is definitely straight (it’s just more likely).

A single woman who spends some time trying to gain status, say buy an expensive car, live in an expensive area or have a prestigious career, might be a lesbian, or just a confused straight woman. Men tend to not be attracted to women more ambitious or who make more money then they do.

Note: single woman is key here, as a married woman has more and different reasons for doing the two items above.

A rich single guy owns a low status car, like say a beat up Corolla. Read the rest of this entry »

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